Recap: confess you have a problem, don't be afraid of labels, seek your inner strength, find a qualified person to help, be willing to go to the dark hidden place, find a support person, call on God and now write, write, write.
Why would I suggest that a person write about events that are hurtful and scary? You might also ask isn't it bad enough that it has to be talked about? My answer to that is yes. When we talk sometimes we are guarded in what we say for a number of reasons. What will they really think? What if it gets too scary? What if they think it is not that bad? What if they don't believe me? The questions could go on and on, these questions are some of the ones that have kept a person from dealing with the issues in the first place. Writing on the other hand is just you and your thoughts of course something to put them on. It can be said however you need to. How it is said is not the important thing, the saying is. There is no judging, no criticism, mistakes are allowed, it doesn't matter how things are said, you don't have to worry about hurting some ones feelings and the beat goes on as to why it helps. It also can help with the expressing of the feelings
that seems too hard to verbalize. You have freedom to say all the forbidden things you could never bring yourself to say while a person is sitting in the room. It is not anything about that person, telling them right at that moment might be just more painful or stressful than you can handle at the time. You can take a break when it gets to intense then go back and continue. It helps you take a really good look at what is hidden. It is also helpful to share with your therapist because it can help them to know how better to help you. It also helps you to talk about them easier, releasing the strong hold they have on you. If you are a drawer that is also a helpful way of expressing what is on the inside waiting to get out. It really is all about you and you getting better. Getting better is important it helps you get the life back that was really meant for you in the first place. Be a victor, I know you can do it. Keep up the great work.
Author Glenda L. Hunter
Monday, March 30, 2015
Sunday, March 22, 2015
PTSD/Call On God
Recap: confess you have a problem, don't be afraid of labels, seek your inner strength, find a qualified person to help, be willing to go to the dark hidden place, find a support person and now call on God.
Call on God why would I even include it into the steps to recovery from PTSD. Keep in mind that God did send His son into the world as a human being flesh and blood just like us. Read the Gospels it will show over and over again how people mistreated him. I do believe some of the treatment left Him with long sleepless nights as well, nights where He prayed to His Father in heaven for help. He had done nothing wrong as many of us have done nothing wrong to merit the treatment received but none the less there it was. Others might have had something happen to them out of their control such as combat, floods, tornados, hurricanes and you name your own. All of these have left you with sleepless nights wondering if anyone cares. I know it might be sound trite to say "God knowns and understands." I do believe that as a fact, God felt all the pain and suffering of Jesus. Read Matthew 26-27 slowly and picture what is being said that will help you know how
God's heart must have been breaking. God did not create us to be mean and hurt each other but it happens. He is there to help us face the horror of our nightmares. He is there to heal the brokenness of the suffering. He is there to help us walk out of those memories that chain us to the hurt of yesterdays. You are doing your part by putting things in order now allow God to do His part. His part is the healing, let it happen and accept it as yours.
Call on God why would I even include it into the steps to recovery from PTSD. Keep in mind that God did send His son into the world as a human being flesh and blood just like us. Read the Gospels it will show over and over again how people mistreated him. I do believe some of the treatment left Him with long sleepless nights as well, nights where He prayed to His Father in heaven for help. He had done nothing wrong as many of us have done nothing wrong to merit the treatment received but none the less there it was. Others might have had something happen to them out of their control such as combat, floods, tornados, hurricanes and you name your own. All of these have left you with sleepless nights wondering if anyone cares. I know it might be sound trite to say "God knowns and understands." I do believe that as a fact, God felt all the pain and suffering of Jesus. Read Matthew 26-27 slowly and picture what is being said that will help you know how
God's heart must have been breaking. God did not create us to be mean and hurt each other but it happens. He is there to help us face the horror of our nightmares. He is there to heal the brokenness of the suffering. He is there to help us walk out of those memories that chain us to the hurt of yesterdays. You are doing your part by putting things in order now allow God to do His part. His part is the healing, let it happen and accept it as yours.
Saturday, March 14, 2015
PTSD/Have Support People
Recap: confess you have a problem, don't be afraid of labels, seek your inner strength, find a qualified person to help and last week was be willing to go to the dark forbidden place and now find support people.
There is no need to go this journey alone. You have a professional that will help steer you in the right direction but you also need other support people. What about your spouse, children and other family members? They can be great support people. They are ones that should have that unconditional love no matter how hard times get. Also what about the buddy you watch the football game with, the lady you go shopping with or the ones you share a cup of coffee or coke with how close are they? In the course of doing activities you enjoy you talk and form a bond. We usually don't think of it like that but if you spend much time together it just happens. Let those trustworthy people know that you are having a hard time. In doing that they will understand better when you call even when you don't say much. Occasionally you just need to hear someone's voice to help you other focus until you can deal with what is going on in your head. There are times you
just need to let them know it is a hard day or week then they can listen to you chitchat until you feel better. They are also good people to text when you just cannot talk because you feel the pain in too much at the moment. You do not have to talk about memories that are happening but talking or texting another person that loves you can help you make it until the next visit to see your therapist. Support people can and do help hold you up and together when you cannot do it yourself. Allow those that love you also help, you are worth their time.
There is no need to go this journey alone. You have a professional that will help steer you in the right direction but you also need other support people. What about your spouse, children and other family members? They can be great support people. They are ones that should have that unconditional love no matter how hard times get. Also what about the buddy you watch the football game with, the lady you go shopping with or the ones you share a cup of coffee or coke with how close are they? In the course of doing activities you enjoy you talk and form a bond. We usually don't think of it like that but if you spend much time together it just happens. Let those trustworthy people know that you are having a hard time. In doing that they will understand better when you call even when you don't say much. Occasionally you just need to hear someone's voice to help you other focus until you can deal with what is going on in your head. There are times you
just need to let them know it is a hard day or week then they can listen to you chitchat until you feel better. They are also good people to text when you just cannot talk because you feel the pain in too much at the moment. You do not have to talk about memories that are happening but talking or texting another person that loves you can help you make it until the next visit to see your therapist. Support people can and do help hold you up and together when you cannot do it yourself. Allow those that love you also help, you are worth their time.
Sunday, March 8, 2015
PTSD/Be Willing To Go To That Dark Forbidden Place In Your Mind
Recap: confess you have a problem, don't be afraid of a label, seek you inner strength, find a qualified person to help and now be willing to go to that dark forbidden place in your mind.
We have everything in place for this next step to take place. It is not an easy one but one I believe needs to be done to get the healing needed for your trauma. Trauma is stored in a locked away place in our minds that I like calling the forbidden place. I call it that because it is a place we forbidden ourselves to go because the pictures and events of those days, months or even years are just too hard to handle. We try to pretend they do not exist. We don't want anyone to know how much they haunt us because they might think we are week. The truth is they think you are strong for having lived through the event in the first place. The question is do you want those memories to control you forever or do you want them to be just that memories of the past? It is not easy, it is frightful to open the closet that you have locked so securely. I want to challenge you to peek in the close, slowly open the door, invite someone to step inside with you, tell them
what you see and allow them to help you to take steps to freedom. You might just take baby steps during the process but remember they are steps.
"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look your fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I lived through this horror, I can take the next thing that comes,'…You must do the thing you think you cannot do." – Eleanor Roosevelt, You Learn by Living
We have everything in place for this next step to take place. It is not an easy one but one I believe needs to be done to get the healing needed for your trauma. Trauma is stored in a locked away place in our minds that I like calling the forbidden place. I call it that because it is a place we forbidden ourselves to go because the pictures and events of those days, months or even years are just too hard to handle. We try to pretend they do not exist. We don't want anyone to know how much they haunt us because they might think we are week. The truth is they think you are strong for having lived through the event in the first place. The question is do you want those memories to control you forever or do you want them to be just that memories of the past? It is not easy, it is frightful to open the closet that you have locked so securely. I want to challenge you to peek in the close, slowly open the door, invite someone to step inside with you, tell them
what you see and allow them to help you to take steps to freedom. You might just take baby steps during the process but remember they are steps.
"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look your fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I lived through this horror, I can take the next thing that comes,'…You must do the thing you think you cannot do." – Eleanor Roosevelt, You Learn by Living
Tuesday, March 3, 2015
PTSD/Find A Qualified Person To Help
Recap: confess you have a problem, don't be afraid of a label, seek your inner strength and now step four find a qualified person to help.
There are all kinds of people out there that are willing and very ready to give advice and directions. It is good to have people you can talk to and I would encourage that to happen. Are they able to handle the deepness of your problem? Will they be able to help direction the healing you really need? You need to get a qualified person that deals with PTSD on regular bases. You do not have to worry about what they are going to think of you, they understand that this is not of your choosing. They will give you a safe place to explore the feelings, sights and smells that haunt your waking and dream world. You can relive as much or as little as necessary for the healing that you so desperately need. They can help direct that process. In doing the reliving and telling of the events you will be walking right out of the memory into a world of peace. I know it is not always easy to step out and trust someone but the peace at the end it worth all the pain to get
there. There is a person out there that is equipped to help you make that walk to peace. Start your journey today.
There are all kinds of people out there that are willing and very ready to give advice and directions. It is good to have people you can talk to and I would encourage that to happen. Are they able to handle the deepness of your problem? Will they be able to help direction the healing you really need? You need to get a qualified person that deals with PTSD on regular bases. You do not have to worry about what they are going to think of you, they understand that this is not of your choosing. They will give you a safe place to explore the feelings, sights and smells that haunt your waking and dream world. You can relive as much or as little as necessary for the healing that you so desperately need. They can help direct that process. In doing the reliving and telling of the events you will be walking right out of the memory into a world of peace. I know it is not always easy to step out and trust someone but the peace at the end it worth all the pain to get
there. There is a person out there that is equipped to help you make that walk to peace. Start your journey today.
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