God gave us control

 

In the beginning God had control over everything. He made the decision to create mankind in His own image. Talk about control. He could have made us robots controlling our every move and action. Some days I think that would be a good thing then we wouldn't have to wonder if we are making the right decision, it would always be right because He would have programed us to do what He wanted. Instead He gave us a free will, which enables us to make our own decisions. In doing that He gave us control of our lives. He gave us rules much like we do with our children.  We do that because we love them. We are training them to be the best person they can be. The end decision is up to them. That is the same with God. He gave us rules to follow. He wants us to love Him and have a relationship with Him but the ultimate decision is ours.  We are no different than Adam and Eve. They made a wrong decision that has impacted our lives. When we make decisions it impacts the lives of other people. God gave us control of our lives what are we going to do with it? Will the impact you have on others be positive or negative?  

Control gone wrong.

 

Some people in the world use control as a power trip. I'm not sure what possesses them to do so but I do know it happens, some parents are like that. They have these precious little children that believe and trust what they say. It doesn't really matter if it is true or not. The child has nothing to compare it to because that is their life, they are under their parents' control. When incorrect information is pounded into their brain day in and day out they believe that is the truth. It doesn't matter how things really are, they become brainwashed. The parents are not trying to build the child's character they are more concerned about what they want. The child becomes afraid to do anything for fear it will be the wrong thing. Life for them becomes one of great fear and uncertainty. The effect of the degrading that happens lingers long after the event. That kind of control can teach a child they are not worth anything. They deserve whatever hurt that is done to them. It teaches them they are unlovable and no one cares about them. They carry that into their adult lives unless someone comes to their rescue. Even when that happens it takes time and a lot of effort to teach them that they are valuable and of great worth. If you see a person that suffers because of this kind of injustice help them feel special, give a kind word, listen to them, and let them know how important they really are. I believe we are all placed here on earth to help each other let us all do our part in giving value to others. God has given us all great value and purpose. When we find someone that doesn't seem to have any let's help them find what they have lost or that was taken from them.

 

Good Control

 

As children we have very little control. We are at the mercy of our parents or guardians. We trust them to make the right decisions for us. We follow their rules or lack of them.  Isn't it interesting that one set of parents have so many rules that children are afraid to breath while another might have none therefore the children run over even them. I am not going to tell you what the right amount of control is for you in your life because I don't know. I do know that children respond better when there is some structure or control. They need to know limits and what is expected of them. A key thing to remember is consistency. When rules are always changing they become unsure of what is expected of them. Then there could be big problems: some become afraid and withdraw while others start acting out in inappropriate ways. Parents that practice good control will allow it to change as the children grow.  In so doing parents are teaching them responsibilities and how to make right choices. They are working at preparing them to go out into the world.  As loving parents we do our best to teach our children the correct way of life. We sit back let the rope of control slowly disappear and let life happens. I trust you are using your power of control in a good way. Next week I would like to talk about when control becomes a power trip.

Guide our family

I talked about protecting our families which is extremely important. This week I'd like to talk about guiding our family. I believe in not stifling a child's creativity. But I also find that phrase means different things to different people. I do not think that letting a child do whatever they want whenever they want is a good thing. That can have an adverse effect. They can learn that it doesn't matter how they treat people because the only one that matters is their own self. Or however they act is acceptable no matter how it is. That is where I think guiding them comes into play. We teach them right and wrong actions and that wrong ones have consequences. We help lead them along a path that will assist them in becoming people others want to be around. People that think about others. Guiding them is different than dictating. It might not seem to be when they are young because we seem to always be telling them what to do. They do need to have a firm foundation of right and wrong actions to build on.  As they grow they still need guidance but they also need room to make decisions on their own. A parent trust that the guidance given as their children grow will facilitate good decision making in the rest of the lives but the final decision to ultimately up to them.  Our job as parents is to guide and protect. We need to be their biggest cheerleader. Also part of our job is to allow God to help them to become the individual He created them to be.

Protect Our Family

We should consider it a privilege to bring precious children into the world. We love them, show them off to everyone we see and enjoy watching them group. Before long they are getting around on their own. We run to their side to protect them from harm when they fall. We keep them away from things that might hurt them. A good parent protects their children the best they can from any harm. We don't protect them because it is demanded of us. We do it because we love them with everything inside of us. Do our children ever get hurt? Yes because that is life no matter how much we try, at some point in their life they get hurt. That does not mean we stop trying.  That means we are here for them letting them know we love them and will do whatever we can to help protect them. Not all children have parents that will protect them but let's don't be that parent. Let's show them the great love they deserve by being there and protecting them the best we can.

National Poetry Month/ABANDONED NO MORE

Seeing people walk away time and time again is what I see in my mind
I cannot tell what is real or memories, they all are so authentic
Abandoned I do feel, left all alone with no one to care BUT
What I see with my real eyes are not people's backs
I see their smiling or sad faces - they really are here to help
They do not leave me in my struggles of yesterday, they stay
Letting me know it is okay to cry when the pain and fear are present
They even give me a hug when I think I can hardly go another step
Their back I do not see even when I question everything they say
Their faces I try to keep in my mind as I thrash about in the night
I hear their heartfelt concern for me as a person
Do these kinds of people forsake you? I don't think so!
No more am I a throw away person to others
ABANDONED NO MORE - THAT IS REALLY ME!!!!!

National Poetry Month/ALONE

Taken from my book "Out of the Depths a Poetic Journey"

ALONE
I feel so very, very alone
In a big world of many
I hear people in the background
They seem to always be miles away
But really they are within arms' reach
But I cannot reach out and touch them
Are my arms broken do they not work
What does it take to reach out to someone?
My aloneness keeps me in a bubble afraid to reach
How can I bust the bubble? I do not know.
No one to talk to or ask my many questions
I wish you could hear my insides wanting out
Maybe then you would understand I cannot help where I am
Maybe you could help rescue me from the bubble
All alone, so alone how do I get out this cage?